Things I Wish Swimsuits Had (try on)

I am 100% on the body positivity train. As a plus size person, it is such a beautiful thing to see other people trying to change the way society works. I have even seen some of the people that I knew as body shamers, changing their tune.

I have had a negative outlook on my body for quite some time. In my adult life that has certainly impacted my summers because I never wanted to be seen as anything less than everyone else’s view of beautiful. Finding swimsuits that I was comfortable in, that fit well, was not expensive, and that I liked, was (and still is) a challenge.

As I have started becoming more comfortable with my “fupa” and aging/saggy skin in all the places, I have tried to branch out and try on the suits that I am drawn to. This lead me to buying 3 new suits this year [one of which I think I already got rid of as I cannot find it anywhere]. I also got out the 2 suits I had from the last couple of years when my body was a bit smaller. I decided to do a little try on -fashion show at lunch. And then discuss some of the issues I see in most suits.

Here is a suit that I bought when I was 40 pounds lighter.

It still fits and pulls my “fupa” in. The top is supposed to be by bra size. While I do like the cup size, you can see that the waist band is a little tight and it is not adjustable.

Here is the other bottoms I bought last year to go with the top that I already had.

I do like these bottoms better. It seems like the crotch area has a little bit more fabric, which I am all for to prevent any slip outs 😅. The fabric just isn’t as thick as the black bottoms, so I am feeling like they could actually fall down given the right circumstances (waves, jumping, sliding).

Now this next suit I was literally in love with as soon as I saw it.

The thing about shopping online though, is you cannot really tell what it is really like as a fabric. All you see is a posed, makeup-ed model wearing it in the most perfect way. I was really sad about the lack of support in this suit. The fabric is way too thin and, for me, there is too much fabric in the one strap. There is also no support for under the chest.

This next suit I was excited about as well.

I got this suit because I have always been a little conscious about #1 my arms and #2 my boobs falling out of a swimsuit top. I thought this was a pretty suit and was more of a conservative choice to help eliminate my worries. Unfortunately this suit also had no support for the chest. I keep having to pull the suit down so that my boobs do not slip out of the bottom.

With all these suits, I keep saying, I wish it had ________. I decided I would list out these things in hopes that maybe it might help swimsuit companies make some changes.

  1. Swimsuit top pads should be secured in place. I find it super annoying to keep moving these pads around. I also find it frustrating when they come out during washing and drying, often times disappearing forever.
  2. Swimsuit tops should be adjustable. Why are straps and waist bands not adjustable? I’m not talking about the kind that tie, because for me, those are even worse (always loosening). But not everyone that is a size 38DD is built the exact same. Some of us have longer, or shorter chests, that make a “one size fits all” impossible to fit all. Having adjustable straps would make this more inclusive to everyone.
  3. Bottoms should have wider crotch regions. I don’t know who’s crotches designers use as a “standard” when making suits. I for one would appreciate even an extra inch of fabric. Nothing is more embarrassing than a coochie slip!!
  4. More options for supportive tops, underneath the breasticles.  I really find it hard to be present in the moments when I am constantly keeping mine from slipping under the bottom of a swimsuit top. I have even had difficulties with one pieces that have no support whatsoever.

So there you have it. Swimsuits should not be this huge frustrating ordeal. If I had the money and the know how, I would be creating my own line.

Where do you buy swimsuits from? I have tried Target, Kohls, Amazon, Shein, and RoseGal. I personally have a hard time spending a lot on a swimsuit. If I had it my way, everything would cost 20$ or less. I know that isn’t logical in today’s world, but if you have suggestions for budget friendly places let me know!!

-jenn

73 Comments

  1. I enjoyed your post. I am also a plus size person and have been most of my adult life with my weight holding steady at a certain number.
    I remember always getting stressed every time I had to see my Dr. which caused my blood pressure to rise. Of course he always told me I had to lose weight to get BP down. One day I’d had enough and after his usual weight comments I looked him in the eyes and told him “ my Dad’s family is short and fat and my Mom’s family is tall and fat so what are my chances of being a size 10”? He looked at me for a moment, apologized and never mentioned weight again.
    My last Dr.’s appointment myBP was 128/70.

    We are more than just a number on a scale.

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    1. Yes! It is always the first thing they mention at appointments. I experienced a lot of that with my first 2 pregnancies, too. I am proud of you for saying something to your doctor!

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  2. I’ve learned that our bodies are a cup of coffee. We’re not everyone’s perfect cup. But we are someone’s perfectly imperfect cup.
    My wife is bigger than you. I do my best to be supportive and make her feel beautiful. She’s not happy with how she looks. But she’s my perfect cup of coffee.

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      1. She’s always been plus sized. She was scared to show me anything other than her face when we first started talking. I prefer plus size women. She’s my perfect cup of strong hot and thick 😂

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      2. I always felt plus sized, but I am realizing that technically I didn’t actually until around the time I got married. My sister in law thinks I have body dysmorphia. Like no matter what size I am, I only see largeness. My husband loves me regardless, but not being happy in my body definitely affects mental health.

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      3. I understand. Even me.. it’s something that gets into your head and it doesn’t leave easily if at all.

        I try all the time to make my wife feel like the awesome beautiful woman she is. I’m fighting against years if not a lifetime of mental trauma and stigma (I think that’s the word)

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      4. Societal standards are foolish because it demands perfection of women’s bodies when women suffer because of life. Stress, anxiety, kids… husbands 😂

        They take a toll and then expect y’all to be a size 2 and smoking hot.

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      5. Then we return to square 1. We’re not everyone’s cup of coffee. But we’re particular peoples perfect cup. Not just physically but intellectually and compatibility.

        I’ve learned I’m a very unique cup of coffee. It took years for a woman to sip and like what she tasted. I’m learning the same with friends. Even blogs.

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      6. We must be running parallel lives here in regards to friends, blogs, and society.
        Perhaps the coffee should be on a tshirt or something 🤔

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      7. My overthinking and over analyzing brain has compared my favorite beverage to most everything.. life, love, oddities…

        I myself am like a mocha…. I’m dark. But light too. I’m strong. Earthy. Sweet occasionally. I’m eye opening lol! I’m room temperature though 😂

        Off topic.. not anything about swim suits.. but you’ll have that with me 😂

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      8. My brain is the same way!
        I can’t decide what kind of cup I would be 😅
        Topics always lead to tangent ones! At least in my mind they do. Each one topic can have infinite tangent ones. 😅

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      9. Because, what one lacks the other brings to the table. I don’t think I could be in a relationship with a person exactly like myself. I’m not sure how my husband does it 😂

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      10. I’m kind of at ease with myself lol! I love my wife!! Don’t get me wrong! But I have some things I wish others had 😆

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      11. I’ll have you know I don’t tire of people easily. And since you’ve given me attention and made me smirk a time or 3 you’re in danger of me 1. Keeping on talking. And 2. Returning.

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      12. I deleted my blog recently. I just made one up to check up on some friends. I couldn’t bring myself to talk to any of my followers. I read new blogs. I’m glad I came across yours. Anyone who will talk to me for any length of time and enjoy it is awesome! So thank you!

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      13. I posted my faith. My poetry and what it meant to me. My thoughts. Whatever came to mind. My problem is that I feel so weird and awkward. I overthink everything. And I talk way too much.

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      14. The right people stick around. Back to that cup of coffee perspective. 😉 I would be curious to read some of that content if you decide to start back up again, let me know@

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      15. Have you ever asked a dream if you could return?
        Maybe, asked a babbling brook of it’s philosophy to learn?
        Or listened carefully to the pines as they whispered?
        Mesmerized by the stars from light years away
        Yet still glimmer
        Questions and fascinations as a child still lore,
        Just like our ancestors before.

        Just for my newest friend (?)

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      16. I really appreciate you! Thank ya! I don’t plan on doing anything anytime soon. But I’ll look you up when I’m on. If you want!

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      17. Now’s the time when my mind starts telling me I’ve talked too much, you think I’m weird and I need to go.

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      18. It takes A LOT for me to think someone is weird, especially in comparison to myself. My mind is always on the social anxiety train, so I completely understand how that goes!
        I am just contemplating getting out of bed and actually getting something done today 😂

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      19. It’s 2:30 pm out my way where are you?? 😂

        Just like body dysmorphia! I’ve been this way for years. It doesn’t go away easily…

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      20. Except football bores me to death, so I am probably the only one here that doesn’t go insane for it. 😂

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      21. We have a difference… 😳

        I’ll let you go. You seem busy. I’m super excited to have conversed with you!

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      22. I’d rather watch. Lol!

        I hope so. My insecure weird mind is really bugging me.

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      23. It happened when you just stopped liking. Just commented. Makes me think I’m holding you up and/or you’re trying to politely tell me to go.

        Told ya I’m a mess😂

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      24. Ok before your blog denies me one more time or sends my comments to spam…

        Your kid comment: I responded, it’s only day 1 Jenn 😂🤣😂

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      25. I apologize if I’m talking too much or bothering you. I’ve been randomly reading and your blog got the discussion gears rolling.

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      26. You’re going to be disappointed because I can be the equivalent of a child sometimes 😂 I’m really intelligent sounding right now because we just met and I haven’t loosened up yet 😜

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      27. Haha! Well so far I haven’t had to yell at you to leave your sister alone, clean your mess, or wipe your butt appropriately to avoid the itching and rashes 😂 so that is a positive there.

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  3. We had a great conversation yesterday. I’m sorry I got 🤪 towards the end…

    Ok.. I’m starting over lol!

    If you don’t mind the opinion of a random guy, you have nothing to be ashamed of. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Even if the beholder is just yourself!

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      1. Might be a weird conversation with a dude but I really started being awakened to what plus size women go through when I met my wife. It’s much more than “fat girls need loving too.”

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