Pardon me while I vent for a minute.
Do you ever find yourself in a situation where someone is making you mad, but instead of talking to them directly about it, you talk to everyone else but that person? Or, do you end up in situations where someone is constantly complaining to you about someone else?
I know I don’t know everyone’s circumstances for why they choose to gossip and complain. Perhaps they are doing it because they are scared. Maybe they fear confrontation. Maybe they are choosing to bite their tongue in front of said problematic person. Maybe they do it out of respect for someone else. Everyone has their reasoning.
One thing I have learned, having anxiety, is that it is best to take the problem on, face first. Getting the problem off your chest makes a big difference in dealing with anxiety. People with anxiety, often, do not do this because they worry about the outcome.
Ask yourself, what is the worst that could happen?
In the last year, I have really been focusing on this for myself. I am the only person who can stick up for myself and my feelings. Sure, it has had some negative outcomes, but in the end I feel so much better getting it out.
Now, I am not afraid to tell someone if I have a problem with them.
If you have a problem, say it to my face. Don’t go around talking smack behind my back. I respect people like that. Open and honest, even when it’s negative. I can take the criticism. Though, I know many people cannot.